Showing posts with label Discipline. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Discipline. Show all posts

Friday, May 2, 2014

More truth leads to less difficulty

Proverbs 23:23 (NCV) Learn the truth and never reject it. Get wisdom, self-control, and understanding.”

“Learn the truth and never reject it.” I don’t know about you, but this seems really hard to do sometimes. When I learn the truth about something, I have a decision to make. I can accept it immediately or I can spend days, weeks, months, sometimes even years wrestling with it trying to incorporate it into my daily life. Has anyone ever been there? I think what this verse is saying is learn the truth and then use wisdom, self-control and understanding we obtain along the way not reject that truth.
Think about a truth you have been wrestling with for a while. I know for me, it was the issue of being a submissive wife. I struggled in this area for years because it was hard for me to submit when my husband and I were in two completely opposite places spiritually. The reality I faced was the “truth of God’s word is, was, and will always be the truth." I can accept it and be blessed or reject it and hinder my spiritual growth. Just because my husband and I were in two spiritually different places did not mean that I had the “option” to ignore the truth. As a Godly wife, I still have to submit to my husband as to the Lord (Eph 5:22).

I am not going to lie to you… this was a VERY hard truth to learn and accept. Looking back, what I learned to do was use the second part of Proverbs 23:23 to help me with the lesson. I actively looked for wisdom, self-control, and understanding in the area of submission. This was a difficult process for me at times, but I didn’t reject the truth just because it was a hard one to accept. I was obedient and as a result God has blessed me and my household beyond measure. There is an indescribable peace where there used to be strife and constant struggle.
So what is the difficult truth in your life? May I encourage you today to use wisdom, self-control and understanding to embrace it. You will be amazed at the way God draws you closer to Him in the process.

Related scripture: Gal. 5: 22 – 23; 1 Peter 1:13; Titus 2: 2 – 6; Titus 2: 11 - 12

Monday, February 3, 2014

Oh be careful little hands what you touch!

Discipline leads to an abundant life

Proverbs 12:1 (NCV) “Anyone who loves to learning accepts correction, but a person who hates being corrected is stupid.”
Ok, I must admit when I read this verse in Proverbs 12 I felt a little twinge because after all, who likes being told they’re doing something wrong? I know I don’t. However, when it comes down to living according to God’s word, it IS up to me to accept the correction that living a fully devoted life requires.
The writer of Hebrews says "God disciplines those he loves" (Hebrews 12:5-6). He (God) disciplines us in the same way we discipline our children. As a parent, I discipline my child because I can see the consequences of his actions if he continues down the path he is currently taking. The same is true of our Lord.
God can see our lives from beginning to end. Just like the watchful eye of a caring parent, He sees when we’re about to “touch a boiling pot on the stove” of our life and encourages us to “move” because He loves us and desires us to live the abundant life He has planned for us. Sometimes we’re too caught up in our own agenda to see His plan clearly. I know discipline isn’t fun but when heeded it will produce a harvest of righteousness (Hebrews 12:10 – 11).
So, what “hot-pots” are you about to touch in your life; disobedience, gossip, inappropriate relationships, bitterness, anger? 

There are “hot-pots” in our lives that we keep touching over and over again and they burn us deeply. God sees the consequences of the touch and wants us to accept His loving discipline. If we accept his correction, we can live the abundant life He has promised for us.
Related reading: Deut. 8:2-5; Rev. 3: 19 – 20; 2 Cor. 12: 7-10; 1 Cor 10:13

Friday, August 30, 2013

I was a dime-store thief

“Just put them under your shirt and tuck your shirt into your shorts. I do it all the time, no one will ever notice. Then meet me back at our bikes.” Words of “wisdom” rolled off the tough of the 9 year-old boy who lived down the street.

“I – I – I don’t know Billy. Someone will see us and we will get into trouble.” My seven year old self tried to reason with the “big” kid.

“Trust me. We will be listening to these on my new record player when we get back to the house.” He fanned out the 7” single records in his hand. In 1973, 45 rpm records were fairly inexpensive but to a 7 and 9 year old they may as well have been $100.

Listening to Billy’s voice and not the voice in my head telling me “don’t do it…you’re gonna get caught and then your Dad will find out…” I shoved the records under my shirt, crossed my arms and headed for the front of the store. I don’t even remember the number of records nor the songs I “took” that day.

I saw the front doors of the store in front of me. “Could it be this easy? Billy was right? No one would ever know I took these records without paying for them.” About 5 steps away from the front door, I felt a hand squeeze my shoulder.

“What do you have under your shirt young lady?” As I turned to see where the gruff voice was coming from tears began to stream from my face. I was busted…and I knew it. But it wasn’t my fault…Billy had talked me into the whole thing.

“Um… nothing?” Not only had I stolen the records, I had just lied to an adult. Did I really think this man was going to believe that?

“I can tell you are hiding something under your shirt. Let’s go to my office and call your parents.” The man’s hand still on my shoulder, he guided me towards an open door. Once inside he asked me to have a seat in the chair in front of his desk. “Look, you can tell me what you have under your shirt or I can call your parents and you can talk to them. The choice is yours.”

Again, tears began to uncontrollably fall from my eyes. I had taken the records and I knew I was wrong and I lied to cover it up.

About an hour later my Dad walked through the door of that little office. He didn’t yell at me or point an accusing finger. He simply sat down beside me and expressed his disappointment. “Stealing records babe? You know better than that.”

He was right…I did know better. My Dad and the store manager walked outside the office to discuss the situation. I have no idea what was said between them. The manager could have called the Police and turned me in for stealing…but he didn’t. He knelt down in front of me and said “I have talked to your Father and I have decided not to report this to the Police. You are welcome back in this store anytime as long as you are with an adult. If I see you in this store with another kid, I am going to have to call the Police…do you understand?”

I had been looking down at my feet the entire time the manager was talking. I raised my head and looked him in the eye. Through my tear filled eyes I promised not to steal anything from his store and I assured him I wouldn’t step foot in the store without my Mom or Dad. My Dad shook the man’s hand and we were gone.

Can you just imagine the car ride home? It wasn't as bad as I originally thought. My Dad was disappointed that I had chosen poorly, but he knew I'd learn a BIG lesson out of the experience. Today, I think about that and it reminds me of how my Heaven Father disciplines me.

The Bible is clear in Hebrews 12:8 – 11 (NCV)
"If you are never disciplined (and every child must be disciplined), you are not true children. We have all had fathers here on earth who disciplined us, and we respected them. So it is even more important that we accept discipline from the Father of our spirits so we will have life. Our fathers on earth disciplined us for a short time in the way they thought was best. But God disciplines us to help us, so we can become holy as he is. We do not enjoy being disciplined. It is painful at the time, but later, after we have learned from it, we have peace, because we start living in the right way."

As children and as a child of God, we are disciplined because we are loved. Sometimes it just isn’t fun to be disciplined…but we can know that when God corrects us, we can see it as proof of his love. 

Instead of asking “Why?” ask “What are you trying to teach me?”



Friday, April 26, 2013

Lack of discipline leads to an out-of-control life


Proverbs 29:18 “Where there is no word from God, people are uncontrolled, but those who obey what they have been taught are happy.”
As I read this verse I couldn’t help but wonder if God gave us children as an illustration of our relationship with Him – especially when it comes to discipline. We love our children and we want what’s best for them. We, as parents, know the harsh realities our children will have to face in this world so we work hard to discipline them in love, encourage them in all they do, and comfort them when they fall. Without this loving discipline, we know our children would be uncontrollable and ill-prepared to face the challenges awaiting them beyond the front door of our safe and comfortable homes.
Even if you’re not a parent, just envision the picture in your head. Think about it in terms of your own life. You are the child and God is the loving Father. Without his discipline our lives spin completely out of control. Even though we may not see it….a path that doesn’t honor God will bring pain and suffering. Why? Because His word (the Bible) confirms it. As Christians we must “enter through the narrow gate. In Matthew, Jesus tells us “For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life (Matthew 7:13 – 14).”
In Luke’s gospel, chapter 11 verse 28 he says, “Blessed are those who hear the word of God and obey it.” At first, disciplining children takes a lot of hard work, consistency, and patience. The same is true for us. Our spiritual journey is not a sprint. It’s a life long journey with our heavenly Father. As we grow through the stages of our Christian life, take a minute to look back at how far you’ve come. How has your life changed since you said yes to Jesus and NO to this world?
Related reading: 1 John 5:2 – 4; 1 John 2:3 – 6; Isaiah 48: 17 – 19; Isaiah 38:17